From Pain to Gains: God’s Blessings

Everyone’s journey to growing their family is so different. That’s what makes it so amazing and what I love most about it. For some, they have no trouble getting pregnant while others struggle for years. Some people go through assistance while others opt for adoption. No matter what your family growth looks like, sometimes we can struggle with how God is blessing us during that time. Learning that the “no’s” we hear don’t always mean forever. They can mean “not right now” or something even more beautiful in its place. The road of pain can be long to get to the point where you feel like you’re gaining the blessings you desire. 

For me, I struggled with how to find joy in the pain of my first loss. I couldn’t understand how I could be pregnant for 10.5 weeks and then suddenly not be anymore. Finding the joy and blessings during that time were very difficult when our friends were having babies and people were asking us when we would start our family.

I strayed from the path of following God for a while and stopped attending church and reading my bible. If you know me and my story, you know that it took some time for me to come back around. It happened on a fall day in a coffee shop with a friend. She asked me why we weren’t going to a church anymore. What was I doing to grow my relationship with Christ? I said we had a miscarriage. I couldn’t handle going to church working with our Sunday school students anymore and seeing all the joys when I couldn’t see the joy in my life.

During the year and a half time from when we had our loss to her asking me that question, I had landed a great job and we had purchased two vehicles. Those were blessings! And yet, I struggled to see that sometimes. No, we didn’t have a baby, but we were able to grow our marriage and have date nights when we needed them. Those were blessings too.

She invited us to church the following week and we went. We have been going to that church for three years now and I have met my tribe. Oddly enough, I grew up with most of them! Reconnecting with them and sharing our story has helped me heal immensely. I also found a wonderful 31 Days of Prayer for Infertility around then and began reconnecting in ways I was missing with the Word.

One of my calls in my business is showing women the blessings they can have during this journey. The connections they can build with others, but also with Christ. Some women burry themselves in Christ during the pain and others drift away. I am not a theologist by any means, but I have learned how to see the good.

The season I am in now is not one of infertility struggles, but life changes. I have become keenly aware of hidden blessings during this time and keep reminding myself – I may not have (fill in the blank) but I do have (fill in the blank) or If I had this, I wouldn’t have that now. That doesn’t mean I don’t sometimes struggle with what I don’t have at times. I just think now I am able to think about the situations differently.

Over the next few weeks, I want to dive into women in the Bible that have struggled with infertility and how they dealt with it and handled their unique situations. That’s what it is, everyone’s is unique and how we handle ourselves in that season can make a huge impact on who we are. Who we are in Christ, who we are in relationships, how we handle life’s hurdles.

So tell me, ladies, can you see the goodness and the blessings in your life during this season? Do you struggle to see what good can come from your pain?

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